Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. (Hebrews 13:8 NLT)
Today I taught my bible study group of teenagers, about seasons of life. We discussed how God is always a constant throughout the many seasons we go through. I really enjoy these teens and how the Lord uses me to reach them. One of the girls in the group was upset that her newly declared boyfriend is moving this summer. She’s known him awhile and he is Christian as well, but they didn’t rush into an official relationship. His dad got a new position which requires them to move. She was so sad by this and I feel for her because she really likes this boy. God placed on me to tell her that even though boyfriends come and go, God is always there. After teaching them about seasons in their lives, it got me thinking about the different seasons we go through in our marriages.
Some seasons can be great, while others are very hard and difficult to get through. Some seasons are longer than we’d like, and others are way too short. I’m grateful that seasons of my life are not like the seasons of a calendar year, predictable. I’m glad they are not the same ones, three months long, four each year, anticipated temperatures, and can mostly expect the same things or celebrations each year. My marriage is nothing like the four seasons of the calendar. Our tough times, when we first got married, lasted a lot longer than I ever expected. Our “winter” was concurrent with our newlywed stage so we argued a lot, when it should have been “summer” bliss. No one gets married and expects to have immediate issues. That’s just not a part of the fairy tale. It was more than difficult because we were dealing with a lot of outside opinions, along with trying to discover more about each other. But, Pete and I made it through. The Lord surely got us through it.
What about those beyond tough times? Those times you just can’t understand what exactly is wrong. Or when you just don’t know how to fix it yourself. When everything seems to lead to an argument. How about seasons of feeling unhappy in your marriage? Those lulls of disconnection from each other. Or how everyone else seems perfectly happy in their marriage but you both can’t agree peacefully on dinner. The personal issues each of you have from the past. The environment you grew up in that made you the person you are today. When you’ve been married for a long time and you feel you don’t love the person anymore. When you experience hardships that break your trust. All these things are seasons. Your life has seasons, friendships end, new career, new perspective, new city, new adventures, loss of family members, birth of family members, etc. But remember your marriage has seasons too.
In these bad seasons and in the good seasons, God stays the same. He is the one constant in our lives. It is no coincidence that God set this whole thing up. Everything around us changes, people, lives, environments, the planet, etc. But God does not. The Lord is the same yesterday, today, and forever. For that reason we must always go to Him. His word is the same. Your word changes, you can’t always keep promises, your taste changes, your perspective changes, but God does not. For this reason, He needs to be our focus. Isn’t it best to focus on something steady when everything else around you is shaky? Isn’t it best to bank on someone reliable when everyone else around you is unreliable? His word never returns void. Your feelings will change but what Jesus said never changes. Go to Him first, rely on Him first. Seek Him first for each season, because He is the shelter through each “hurricane” season. He is also the rock when you need a leg up.
“I am the Lord, and I do not change…” Malachi 3:6. Remember this when you don’t have the answers. You don’t need all the answers. God consistently provides the answers we need.
Pray for the various seasons of your marriage. Pray for lessons to be learned by both of you. Pray for change within both your hearts. Pray for transformation by both of you to be more Christ-like and Christ-centered. We cannot do this alone. We weren’t meant to do this alone. Go to the rock. Go to what is a constant force of love, grace, shelter, and peace. James 1:17 says, “Whatever is good and perfect comes down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.” Amen