As an apricot tree stands out in the forest, my lover stands above the young men in town. All I want is to sit in his shade, to taste and savor his delicious love. He took me home with him for a festive meal, but his eyes feasted on me! (Song of Solomon 2:3-4 MSG)
Have we looked at our husbands and truly admired them lately? For most of us, it’s been awhile. Have we stared at our husbands the way we did when we were dating? Even for newly weds this can get lost with the merging of lives, finances, schedules, and expectations. It is easy for all of us to get so wrapped up in our day and not think about the butterflies our husbands gave us when we first dated.
Have we stopped and thanked The Lord for the love of our husbands today? Have we embraced our husbands like the young woman in Song of Songs? She says “My beloved thrust his hand through the latch-opening; my heart began to pound for him.” (Song of Solomon 5:4 NIV)
When her beloved is trying to open the door, her heart leaps and is overwhelmed just by knowing it’s him at the door trying to get in. We need to remember these feelings girls. We all had them, we all said yes to the men we call our husbands. God is so excited by our marriages and the sacred acts of love that should only be between husband and wife.
Send your husband a sexy text message, a love text message, a compliment, something sweet or kind or passionate or inviting. Men are physical creatures as we know. Let’s not condemn them for it, it is how God made them. God made your husband to crave you, seek after you, to find you more beautiful than any other.
“Like a lily among thornbushes, so is my dearest among the young women.” (Song of Songs 2:2 CEB) In Song of Songs the man continues to build her up, telling her how beautiful she is and here in chapter 2, verse 2 he says she stands above the rest. She is a lily among thorns or thistles in some translations. So the other women aren’t even appealing to him, she is the lily.
God built our husbands to find us as lilies among the thorns, always remember that. Do not let your husband wonder if you still crave him. Don’t make him guess or wonder if you are still attracted to him. Regard him as your provider, safeguard, and shield. He can be all these things because he was made in God’s image.
I like where it says “Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!” (Song of Songs 2:15 NLT)
We can be the foxes sometimes in our marriage. It is not just the “foxes” in this world that can ruin our love vineyard, like temptation, sin, the enemy, etc. It can be our busyness, our distracted minds, our lack of reminiscing on moments you both shared that brings a smile or even a giggle to your face. Hesitating on sending him love or compliments because you are considering if he will do these things for you will not build your marriage. Considering ourselves first only tears our marriages down.
Our number one priority as a wife is prayer. Loving our husbands and all the other many priorities are important also, don’t get me mistaken. I say prayer is first because you are seeking God first. As a wife, woman, person who is breathing, it is important we seek God first. In doing this, you can ask the Father for wisdom, comfort, a response from your husband, a reciprocated gesture from your spouse so that you feel loved as well. But it is my belief when we send sexy or love texts, reminisce on butterfly moments, and get excited for him at the door before he even enters… our husbands will respond. They will notice and we will see results.
Send a text or message now, don’t think about it, just do it. Re-read our scriptures above. Read all of Song of Songs. Compliment your husband today for God has blessed you with this vineyard of love. We must tend to our vineyards and let it continue to blossom and produce sweet wine, season after season. Be blessed my friends.
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